What if when you said “until death do us part” you were signing on to a marriage that may last as long as a century?
Today TIME.com ran a piece that talked about how with the possibility of some of us living to be one hundred fifty years old we may live long enough to have two or even three very long marriages.
I began to wonder, instead, what one would need to do to have one marriage that would remain vital and satisfying for a hundred years, or even longer? With a mere thirty-five years of marriage under my belt, my first thought was that it would require a willingness to adapt to a great deal of change.
The marriage that I had as a newlywed barely resembles the one I now have these many years later. And thank goodness for that! Most people I know who are in long marriages have said the same thing. They’ve changed through the years and their marriages have changed with them, though by no means gracefully or easily.
With all that my husband and I have been through in our many years together, we’ve remade our relationship several times over. Maybe we’ve gotten the best of both worlds: a life spent with someone we’ve come to know deeply, with room for the unexpected that will require us to grow.
What do you think it takes to make a marriage last?